The Pain

The problem comes when the needs aren't being met by the loved one, and so the needy seek another to meet their needs.

And then the pain comes.

Facing the impossibility of meeting another's needs, and then knowing that when you fail, they will dump you to seek another. It swallows you in depression until you can't breathe.

Anytime you want to fight this battle for me Lord, I'm wounded enough now, wouldn't you say?

Turn your eyes upon Jesus

Meeting the needs of another person is so discouraging. Because it's impossible to achieve. God created us with a need for Him. Our physical and emotional needs are such a small part of who we are and what we really long for. And the joy that we seek is only temporarily fulfilled by having our earthly needs satisfied for a moment.

An intimate partner has needs that we are to serve. And we do it joyfully (if we want to stay together) to provide a moment of happiness to that person we love. But when we are unable to meet those needs adequately or often enough, or to the extent they were expecting, then they are sad or angry or disappointed. In us. When truly, there is nothing we could do to make them completely happy.

Only knowing and loving and serving Jesus can fulfill the joy we desperately search for. "And the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace."